Sunday, 27 December 2009

Create Lots of Little Successes To Maintain Momentum

The most common cause for failing to finish a task or a programme of activity is due to a lack of visible results.

This is the same reason people often don't stick to things. If we can't see the benefits - and right now - why carry on? Surely it's a sign that it's not working?

However, the minute you can see any tangible benefit from an activity interest picks up again.

The trick is to create lots of little successes that maintain interest and momentum. These "successes" can still be fairly intangible: it's all about "creating" them in the right way.


Breaking it down

Creating the feeling of success can be fairly easy - although it's largely down to creating the perception of success, i.e. convincing yourself and others that whatever it is you're doing is going well, based on "evidence" you've gathered as you've progressed.

A few simple steps to follow to help with this:

  1. Break the task down into smaller bits
  2. Work out how you will know when you have completed one of these bits
  3. See every bit of progress as a mini-success. It is all a step in the right direction.
  4. Reflect on progress regularly. Look at what you have done and achieved. Tell people about it!
It may seem like common sense, but if you have a seemingly massive task that you are tackling, it's really worth taking a step back and thinking about how to break it down and what checkpoints you will review progress at along the way. Do give it a go - it really works!


Friday, 25 December 2009

Week-By-Week Personal Development Plan

Sometimes it's easier to just use a plan that someone else has made rather than coming up with our own from scratch - especially if we're doing something for the first time - and then it's always easier to build our own plans if it's something we've done before and are familiar with.

How about this for a nineteen-week step-by-step personal development plan to get you started: http://personaldevelopment.suite101.com/article.cfm/personal_development_program_building_awareness

There's a load of extra info behind each and every week, including extra supporting material here: http://www.suite101.com/blog/coachjerry/sample_personal_development_program

If you've had a go at following this plan, I'd be very interested to hear how it went. What worked? What didn't? Did you find it balanced enough? What would you do differently, were you to do it again?


Merry Christmas 2009!

A very brief post today, as I am spending the day with family (the in-laws for lunch and my side of the family in the evening).


Keeping focus

My message for today is about keeping focus.

Focus is key to success, to driving forwards progress in the direction you want to.

However, remember that you must choose the right thing to focus on to be successful.

Success is not just about financial rewards.

Today my focus is on friends and family. I will focus on this completely and will not think about work or anything else.

This is the right focus for today. Without focus, I will not be successful. In same way, if I am distracted by work and consumed by thoughts of activities to succeed in a financial or material way, I will never truly be happy, because relationships are as important if not more important to happiness.

Have a great Christmas.

Thursday, 24 December 2009

We Have Complete Control Over What Success Is

The following article suggests that "All situations that are mutually beneficial define Success":

Whilst I do agree that mutually beneficial scenarios are generally successful from my perspective, what this seems to miss is that we define our own successes.

They are successful to me because I believe them to be successful.

i.e. to some people, if they "win" and others "lose", this is success to them.

In the long term, win-win scenarios are generally better because it usually leads to building a relationship with the other person involved in an interaction, leading to future successes that make the initial success even more pivotal - but "success" is a subjective thing.

It's all down to our perception of a situation.

The great thing is, we have control over our own perception of success. If we enter a negotiation or interaction with a conscious decision on what a successful outcome will look like, as long as we define it in the right way, we will be able to achieve it.

The conscious choice is how we take control of our own lives.

Make it your choice for your life to be a success and you can make it that way.


Christmas Eve, 2009

Merry the-day-before-Christmas!

It's a time for giving, so an article like the following fits quite nicely: http://www.successful-blog.com/1/15-ways-to-help-the-people-in-your-business-and-your-life/

Even if you're not religious, Christmas is a great time where people are generally that bit nicer to each other, a bit more positive and happy, and give presents to one-another.

If we could keep that mindset of thinking of others before ourselves and giving not taking (and at Christmas not just thinking about what we're going to receive and the inevitable food and drink), the world would be a better place.

The more you give, the more people will give you back - and the more genuinely you do it, the better the results. i.e. if you're a genuinely nice person, who gives without expecting to receive, you will get what you deserve in return, even if it doesn't appear in the way you expected it or when you expected it.

So - give to give, not to receive, and enjoy the act of giving. Anything you get in return will just be a bonus on top.


Daily Rubbish: a lesson - 23rd Dec

Three days in to my daily routine, and yesterday I didn't post a "daily rubbish" article.

Ok, so it was the day before Christmas Eve, but the whole point of this routine is that I don't ever miss a day, no matter how busy I am, even if the post is a bit pointless.

There will be another, separate daily rubbish post for today. This is the post to replace yesterday's post.


What I did wrong

#1 error was trying to make the article too good.

The whole point of having the word "rubbish" in the title of my daily rubbish posts, is that they can be completely rubbish, it's just a structure to make sure I do it. Even if I write a post saying "sorry, I don't have enough time to post anything good - here's a link to something else to read that I found useful..." - that would be better than nothing.

I now have another half-finished post, that I'm not happy to post just yet so will not form one of my "daily rubbish" posts.

I will not miss another day.


It made me think about personal development writers in general...

...and how the one thing that often irritates me is the "holier than thou" writing style.

I am not better than you, I am just different. I am better at some thing and not as good at others. This is always going to be true, and if I start becoming too preachy I need to look at my life and realise that even if things are great that is no reason to think that it's better than anyone else's. I am still learning and will continue to learn and that is one of the best things about the journey.

Maybe there's an idea in this for a "proper" article in the future...


Tuesday, 22 December 2009

Capability vs. Experience: Does Age Matter?


There's a good list of "lessons learned" over on the Symbolics blog here:
http://symbolics.com/birthday-i-turn-30-today-30-lessons-ive-learned-in-life-and-business/

However, for today's "daily rubbish" post, I'm not discussing any of these lessons learned. Instead, I've actually picked up on something in one of the comments below the post: "You have wisdom way beyond your years..."

What's more valuable: capability or experience?

I've been fortunate enough to work for people who have given me the chance to stretch myself and work in positions far beyond those that would normally be expected of someone at those points in my career. For example, within two years of graduating I worked in a "Global Head of" position for a specialist UK-based consultancy.

These "sink or swim" scenarios are always risky, but with the right support and guidance I've always swam.

Many people who are just as capable may never get these opportunities because they "don't have the experience". It takes a good manager to have the courage to create these opportunities for people and to manage them through the roles, providing them with enough rope to hang themselves but always having a chair at the ready to stabilise them.


Experience is still key

You can't beat experience for learning lessons. No matter how capable you are, if you have zero experience, you're going to struggle. We base our actions based on reference points from past experiences, and without those reference points we will struggle.

However, the value of experience is in its application. If you don't actually apply the lessons you've learned - by repeating successes and avoiding repeated failures - your experience is worthless. This is why there are many people who are very experienced but still don't make any headway.

Likewise, the value of experience without capability is far lower than capability with limited experience. If you've experienced lots of things but can't do anything new or better based on those things, what value is that experience?

Conversely, if you are highly capable but have little experience, the contributions you can provide will be valuable, and the value you can provide will increase all the time because with everything you do, you will gain experience.


Some experience can be learned

There are many mistakes I have avoided, and many times I have been able to make sound decisions and talk authoritatively about what should be done, not through first-hand experience, but though things I have learned.

The key sources of learning are:
  • More experienced people - especially more experienced people telling stories. Some people find it irritating when people keep recounting things they've done in the past. I recommend you listen before criticising, you might pick something up!
  • Reading! - books, blogs, magazines, project reports... whatever works for you. Reading about other people's approaches, both academic methodologies and "real" case studies, is a great way to find out about how others have approached the same challenges that you are currently facing, the pitfalls to avoid and key things to do to succeed.
  • Other people's mistakes - which can be picked up both through the above two sources, and from encountering them first-hand. It's far better to learn through other's mistakes than your own, and through reading you can pick up far more lessons than you would be able to through your own experience (because experiencing things takes time and opportunity!)
  • Your own experiences - this is an obvious one, but it's still one of the most important. The above are all ways to fast-track learning, but your own experiences will stay with you and can be far more effective than the others. It may be more painful, but if you make a mistake, you're far more likely to remember to avoid it in the future (especially if it was particularly painful to resolve).
The key thing with all the above though, is to listen and think about how to apply the lessons you pick up.

With your own experiences in particular, it is important to recognise if you have made a mistake and address it rather than pretending it wasn't your fault - because you will risk repeating it, which is never a good thing to do.


Meritocracy hypocricy

The real challenge to all of this is when it's applied to real work environments.

There is a common perception that experience brings wisdom and greater capability - and the reality is that that generalisation is often right.

The problem is how to deal with when the perception is wrong.

Some companies like to think that they run a meritocracy (promotion through merit and achievement rather than time in post), but when people are involved in the review process emotions get involved and this often cannot occur.

The thing that really gets to me is when someone who has been promoted quickly due to their achievements ("fast-tracked"), doesn't share the same views as those who got them there and holds back others from the same opportunities. I've experienced this a few times over the years (fortunately only affecting me once), and I can see how frustrating it is for the individual.

Of course, the other side to this is where ambition clouds someone's judgement, making them think they should be promoted and thinking that they are looking at it "objectively", when in fact they are not.

In my case, I got around this a couple of times by accepting a more senior position early without the associated promotion/pay-rise/bonus/etc, proving I could do the job well then getting promoted off the back of the clear and irrefutable success. It's sometimes difficult to do this, performing a job where you know you should be paid a lot more than you are being paid, but the patience can pay off and result in a much more rapid progression as a result.


It's a tricky one

Ultimately, the whole thing comes down to human being striving to achieve and the difficulties that management face in taking risks and providing opportunities without over-exposing themselves, and the constant balance people need to strike in trying to fulfil their ambitions without becoming overly arrogant or over-stretching themselves.

The key thing that has always kept me going is keeping a focus on doing the best job in the most interesting and challenging roles I can (and if I'm given a dull role looking for ways to create opportunities, make it more interesting to drive more value, or doing extra stuff around the sides), and also keeping a focus on learning and developing rather than on the next promotion.

By focussing on how to help and drive benefit and success, you're far more likely to achieve the associated financial and status benefits than if you focus on the promotion and do everything cynically out of a desire to progress your career.